Middle School FAQs
How Can I Help My Middle Schooler Make Good Decisions?
- Give your middle schooler the opportunity to make choices about food clothes, and other non-critical areas, even when it's easier to simply issue a command.
- Ask for your child's opinion about what should be done in various situations.
- Let your child be the one to decide if more practice on a task or skill is needed before trying something harder.
- Permit your child to decide how to solve problems, even though you would find it quicker to provide a solution. Explore together the possible consequences if certain choices are made.
- Let your middle schooler offer concrete evidence to show a readiness for new privileges or responsibilities.
- When conflicts arise, request that your middle schooler take some responsibility for resolving them in a way that will work for all involved.
- If your child is angry, have him or her cool down rather than make a rash decision.
- Give your middle schooler the space to make poor (but not life-threatening) decisions. Teens, like us all, often learn from mistakes.
- Offer your support and understanding when your teen makes mistakes in judgment. Then discipline as needed.
- Acknowledge your middle schoolers good decisions. Point them out when made and refer to them when future decisions are required.